A Stoic Guide to Inner Strength, Stillness, and Self‑Mastery I Think Sometimes I Might Behave as If I’ve Started to Become Unshakeable Lately I’ve noticed something subtle in myself—not a dramatic transformation, but a quiet shift, the kind that grows slowly and only reveals itself in small moments. My 86‑year‑old Dad, my family, the responsibilities that come with love and adulthood… they’re all still here. Life hasn’t become lighter. But I’ve changed in how I meet it. I wake early, do my work, carry what must be carried, and then—in the soft hour before sunrise—I listen to a robin singing outside my window. And somehow, in that small moment, I feel steady. Not untouched by life, but unbroken by it. The Stoics would call this ataraxia : a calm that doesn’t depend on circumstances, a peace that grows from within. Marcus Aurelius wrote, "If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it.” I think I’m learning to change...
What I Wish I Had Known About Easing My Mind While I Was Trapped in Stress-ville
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress, unable to find a moment of peace? Well, you’re not alone—at least there are two of us. In our fast-paced world, finding inner calm can seem like an impossible task. But what if I told you there’s a Stoic principle that can help you achieve just that? Meet Ataraxia, a fancy word from Stoicism that means inner peace and freedom from worry. Sounds pretty good, right?
The Path to Ataraxia
So, how do you get there? Let’s break it down into three simple steps:
1. Accept What You Can’t Change
Imagine you’re stuck in traffic, feeling the frustration build. Getting angry won’t make the cars disappear! Instead, take a deep breath and let it go. Acceptance is the first step towards inner peace. By acknowledging that some things are beyond our control, we can focus our energy on what we can change—like enjoying a favourite podcast or practising mindful breathing.
2. Focus on What You Can Control
Your reactions and thoughts are within your control. Instead of stressing over a bad grade, think about how you can improve next time. By shifting your focus to your actions and mindset, you empower yourself to make positive changes.
Appreciate the little things, like a sunny day or a kind word. Gratitude shifts your mind from worrying to enjoying. It helps you see the beauty in everyday moments and fosters a sense of contentment.
Ataraxia: Finding Calm Amidst the Chaos
Ataraxia isn’t about being emotionless. It’s about finding calm amidst the chaos. It’s about understanding that while we can’t control everything, we can control how we respond. By practising acceptance, focusing on what we can control, and cultivating gratitude, we can unlock our inner peace.
Ready to Unlock Your Inner Peace?
Are you ready to embrace Ataraxia and find your inner calm? Start by incorporating these Stoic principles into your daily life. Remember, it’s a journey, not a destination. Each step you take brings you closer to a more serene and balanced life.
My Journey
I can vividly recall the moments when I grumbled about being late for work—those pesky Monday blues. Or the times I raised my voice at my husband (please forgive me, dear!) for leaving his socks strewn across the floor.
Crying and shouting never altered my situation; I was late because of delays on the underground, and those socks remained in their place the next day, almost taunting me.
The takeaway? I need to find Ataraxia.
There was only one instance in my life when I truly embraced change: when I learned that cancer, my fiercest opponent, had returned. It was a powerful realization that called for drastic actions. I simply accepted it.
When faced with real problems, I believe individuals can quickly embody Stoicism. We have no other choice, do we? The other challenges we encounter are merely insignificant distractions and noise. As Kaptah, a character from Mika Waltari’s “The Egyptian,” would put it, “and the rest is the buzzing of flies.”
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