How to Stop Being Too Nice to Everyone | Stoic Wisdom for Boundaries
There is a kind of person who never makes a scene. Are you this kind of person? Yes? Then you must know that people have quietly learned to depend on you. Being kind doesn't mean being available to everyone all the time. The moment you start protecting your time, some people will call you selfish. Not because you've changed, but because they lost unlimited access to you. You remember the birthdays. You answer the phone at eleven at night. When a colleague is overwhelmed, you take half the work without being asked, and when a friend is heartbroken, you listen until the tea goes cold. People describe you with the same word again and again: kind. And yet, if someone could watch you alone at the end of the day, they might see something that word doesn’t cover. A tiredness that sleep does not fix. A small, private ache, the feeling of having given a great deal and received almost nothing you can name. I want to talk about that ache, because I think it is one of the most misunderst...
